It's very important to spend time with people you love. Tell them that they are wonderful and that you appreciate their support and love. Don't expect them to know how you're feeling without telling them. If you love someone, tell them that you love them. If you are grateful for someone, tell them that you're grateful for them. If someone upset you, don't go yelling at them in their face. It's easy to blame on other people and tell them how horrible it is/was. But that's not the solution to all this. If you have trouble/disagreement with someone, you need to talk to them. like, really TALK TO THEM. Explain how it made you feel. It's easy to say that it's their fault without realizing their point of view or where they are coming from. Everything is about the perspective. Being able to change your perspective can save your life. Yelling at each other is easy. Blaming it to somebody is easy. But appreciating what/who you will have and what you already have, that's something else. Being able to recognize and acknowledge what other people are doing for you, that's something else. If you've been hurt by other people, or feel like you've been judged or belittle by someone, it's time for you to start changing your perspective.
There'll always be people who'll try to bring you down, or tell you that you're not good enough or try to discourage you. And there'll be people who means good, but the things they say can make you feel the opposite. You know, like your mom tells you something that she thinks it's good for you but it can really upset you or hurt you!? That kinda thing. There's also tough love. And it's very important to have someone who'll push you forward, tell you straight forward what might hurt you. You can tell the difference. When someone is important to you that type of love is essential.
But everyone likes to be appreciated, to be noticed, and to be encouraged. If you see someone doing wonderful, take a moment to acknowledge that. Tell them how great they've been doing, or how wonderful they are. Be grateful, show and tell them. It's one thing to be fake and just tell thing that what they might want to hear. Don't talk them up in their face and talk bad mouth when they are not looking. Don't waste your time on something negative. There's always at least one thing you can be grateful for that person even when they make you feel like nothing. Maybe they are protecting themselves from getting hurt. that's their defense mechanize. They might see what they don't like about themselves in you, and that makes them feel not so great about them. They might see what they want in you and that makes them see that they're not there yet. There are millions of possibilities. The only thing you can do is to be true to who you are, and to keep working on to be better, and to life up other people. We all want same thing and that's love. So start by giving love to others. You'll start seeing the change in other people. You can't change other people. But you can change the way you approach them. You can just show them, and lead them by example. You can show them love.
Love,
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