Any good relationships take work and commitment, if you want to keep it, that is. We cannot and should not take anyone for granted. Everybody that comes into your life has its own meaning. God has placed them specifically in that timing for a reason. Maybe there's a lesson to be learned. or you are placed there, not for you but for someone else so that they can learn something only you can teach. Whatever the reason maybe, people come in and out of your life.
It seems to be the transition time here in NYC. People are moving in to the city, or moving out to somewhere else. For the next step in their life. Some friends are moving out, some already moved out. They are starting a new chapter in their life, to become better, to pursue they dream, to find a new purpose in their life. Their reasons are all different. I have to say that I've met so many great people ever since I moved here. They've made positive changes in my life and helped me grow. I want to talk about my co-workers. You know you usually have someone that you don't really get along with!? I'm very lucky grateful to say that I haven't have those in a long time. Most of the time, I get along with them very well. I have a great time working with them, and we've become good friends. They are joy to have in my life. Last night we had a farewell party for 2 of them. They're moving out from the city to start a new chapter in their life. Since it's a restaurant, somebody has to work. We can't just close for those people and just hang out. I wish we could though. Anyway... it was amazing. It didn't matter it was almost 1AM. Yes, 1AM. Most of the stuff showed up. Servers, hosts, bartenders, kitchen stuff.... everybody was there to celebrate their new journey. I thought that was incredible. Some of them doesn't even work with us any more. But that's how much they care about people.
I've been a lot about friendship and relationship from them and people I meet. We can never take any relationship for a granted, even your family. Yes, some people might have negative attitude towards you. Some people might not know how to keep healthy relationship with their family. And if some people constantly put you down or give you negative influence, learn to have a healthy (distant) relationship, like work environment or even family. Learn how to be civil with them. But if it doesn't require you to stay there, get out. You don't have to tell them "I'm cutting you out of my life!". You can just simply let go of that person and move on. For the relationship you want to keep, fight for it, work on it and build it. Friends of mine started relationship and they decided to move out of the city. One left first and the other followed. I got to spend time with both of them before leaving. And surprisingly, I had an exact same conversation with both of them. "You have to make an effort to keep a good relationship with anyone". Talking on the phone was never something I was good at. So, keep in touch with people was never my forte either. And I'm guilty for not putting effort to keep good friendship and relationship with my family. I love them, and yet I haven't been talking to them as much as I should. I have to and I want to start doing that. I want to build better relationship with my family and friends. And to be there for them, to actively take parts in their life. I cannot assume or expect them to do the same for me, when I'm not doing it. I want to learn and work on those things.
I hate when people are having meal together but everyone's on the phone and not talking to each other. It's just horrible. You are there to spend time with them. Social Networking has changed everything. For someone who lives far from family and friends, oversea like myself, it's a great way to keep in touch with them. But those thing will just give you the information of what's going on. Your status update is not your relationship with your friends. Try to have face to face conversation with people you care. Stop relying on your phone to do your work for you. Talk anything. Laugh about anything. Enjoy each others company. You have to be willing to make that effort. And the truth is that when you care about that person, you won't even feel like an effort. Because you just want to spend time with them. You will make time to do that. Everyone will show you different things in your life. Everyone is your teacher, your student, your friends, your family... God has placed you and others for a reason. Don't miss out on the moment.
Love, Hope, Faith,
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