Every relationship has its ups and downs, beginning and ending. In order to have ANY relationship, family, friends, professional, love, ANY relationship needs more than 2 people. And both of them have to have willingness, effort and commitment to stay in that relationship. 0.5+0.5=1. That's not how relationship should be. Other people cannot fill what you are missing within yourself. You have to be whole as who you are first. Any relationship should be 1+1= more than 2.
It says "Love your neighbors as you love yourself." You have to LOVE YOURSELF first before you love someone else. That's the bottom line. You have to love yourself first! You have to have a great relationship with yourself. We'd talked about how you have to be your own best friend, your own best supporter, and not to be your own worst enemy. There are already so many people who will judge and criticize you. Why do it to yourself?! You have to know what's your strength and weakness in order for you to be "better self". But that's analyzing and knowing. What do you love?! What do you want to do?! What makes you happy!? Who are you!?
Throughout the years, we build layers and layers of walls. Some to protect ourselves from getting hurt. Some to protect ourselves from even feeling anything. And the longer you have the walls, the more difficult for you to know who you truly are. We put on a happy face, pretend that everything is good and happy, act as if there's no worries in the world. Are you avoiding to hear what you're feeling?! Are you pretending not to realize what's really going on?! But inside that wall, what are you feeling?! Are you feeling upset?! Frustrated?! Concerned?! Worried?! Happy?! Loved?! Joyful?!
I'm firm believer of "Fake it till you make it". especially when it comes to smile. You don't smile because you are happy. You are happy because you smile. It's scientifically proven that way! And I love the song "Pretend" and "Smile". Both are amazing songs. But the fact is that you have to know that you are sad or upset or hurt. You have to accept what you are feeling first!
I want you to be happy.
I want you to love yourself.
I want you to be loved.
I want you to be able to give love.
I want you to be able to accept love.
I want you to be able to feel what you feel.
I want you to be able to appreciate life.
Just because you are alive. Just for that simple reason, you have something to celebrate. And it is amazing. Shift your thoughts. We have so much more than we think.
Love,
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