Inspiration=Genuine Being

Being able to inspire people and to be inspired by people, those are incredibly important part of my life. I want to inspire people. I want to be inspired by people. 

The reason I started this blog is exactly that. I wanted to share my thoughts by sharing what I'm feeling. By showing the raw self. By sharing my strength and weakness. By sharing the inspirations that other people have given me. By spreading Love, Hope and Faith. If anyone can get any spark of inspiration from that, that'll make my day. 

A friend of mine has inspired me in so many different way. We've known each other for less than a year. However, she's affected my life tremendously. She's told me that how much this blog has inspired her, and gave her some strength. Her genuine reaction and response have made me want to do better,and to be a part of that process for more and more people. I don't think that my writing is that great. I don't even know that if most of them make any sense to anyone other than me! But still, I want to share my thoughts with the rest of the world. and if you are reading this, I am truly grateful for that. Seriously, thank you so much for reading this. 

And I believe that any inspirational acts or words must come from genuine place. It has to come from your heart. Not from the idea of how it supposed to sound or look. Not to impress people. Not to show other people how smart, talented, or beautiful you are. That's not gonna do anything. Inspiration happens when people are true to who they are, what they are doing, and what they are saying. They don't have to DO anything. They are just to there. They just need to BE there. Being true can be actually most difficult thing in the world. We all wear some type of mask to conceal our true self. And the more you spend time with that mask, we forget that we're even wearing them. It takes courage to be transparent. It takes efforts. We need to believe that we are good enough. We might have to get rid of the old habits and the belief that you are accustom to. Being true to who you are, being in charge of who you are, being in charge of your happiness... Those aren't the things that makes you selfish or self centered. If anything, the more happy you are and true to who you are, the more kind and generous you are to other people. In order for you to be inspirational, you have to be you. And BE in every moment.  Show up to your life. 

Love,

Day of Love

Love is the source of all energy. 

Love is the power.

 Love is what we are made of. 

Three things will last forever--faith, hope, and love--and the greatest of these is love.

1 Corinthians 13:13

How was your Valentine's Day!? Were you able to tell people around you that you love them?! It is so important to tell them that. Again, just like Thanksgiving Day, it doesn't have to be Valentine's Day to tell and show people that you love them. You should do that every day! It is a great reminder for those who forget to do it. For that purpose, I'm all for Valentine's Day. But everyday should be the day of love. We are all here because of this amazing power of Love. Love doesn't have to be for some person or people. Love can be for anything and everything. We love our family, friends, significant others, our pets, our jobs, our life, and this Universe. You might not love everything, but you must love something. The more love you have, the more love you sure, the better your life will get. At least that's what I believe. 

When you response to people with negative and bad attitude, they will most likely give you back exactly what you gave them. And just the same, when you respond and act from the place of love, you will more likely to get positive response. We've all seen it. It is no use to yell back someone because they give you an attitude. By doing that, they will probably yell you back. And you will yell them back, and it keeps going and going.... it's just a bad cycle. Your action should always come from the place of love. Even though we cannot do it all the time, we should try to do that anyway. 

My mom knew it. Looking back now, it was very unusual for my culture to show affection. But she always told my dad "I love you", every morning before he left for work. "You never know what's gonna happen. If that's the last word I get to say, I want him to know that I love him from the bottom of my heart." Isn't that fantastic?! She loves him so much. And she loves us so much. 

And I want to tell you all that I love you too. I want my life to be filled with love. not with anger or hatred. There are so many things that could get to us. Will you!? that's the point. those things and people will become your problem, if you let them. No matter what it is or who it is, show them love. Love conquers all. And that's why I want my life to be filled with love. 

Love,

We are all in this together

We don't realize how a few word can make someone's day. Very simple things like "thank you" or "You did great today!" That can change or help someone's mentality in such way. People often neglect to acknowledge other people. Most of the time because we are too busy taking care of ourselves. Start paying attention to those things that people do for you. It doesn't have to be anything huge. Again, we all have our own issues and lives to focus on. But we need to remind ourselves that we don't and can't live only on ourselves. There's no way. Either consciously or not, directly or not, we are all in this Universe together. None of us will exist on our own. 

Being able to realize that can give us such strength and power. The fact that someone has been watching you. They saw that you are doing what you can to make your life better and to improve yourself. More often that enough, we criticize ourselves and beat up ourselves for not meeting our expectations. We think we are not good enough, or not doing enough. We think that we are not we should be. We are often our own worst enemy. And even though we try to avoid that as much as possible, still we end up doing that again. So, when someone acknowledge you and give you compliment, or credit, we need to learn how to accept that. Say "Thank you" genuinely, and give yourself some credits that in fact you have been working hard. 

To learn how to be the best supporter for yourself is part of our journey. Even those who seem confident, or who seems like they have it all, they still have bad days. We just don't know their story. We imagine that they don't have any problem from what we see. But every single person in this world has their own problem and dilemma that they are facing. Nobody's life is perfect. We learn to coop with them. We learn how to embrace our life with all those. So, we are all in this together.We are all the same. So, be a good supporter for each other. When you see someone doing good, or doing nice to other people, acknowledge that. It doesn't have to be fancy. It might make their day. And they might make your day one day in the same way you did. Love is the strongest and greatest source of energy. Fill your life with love. It makes it more meaningful. 

Love,

Unique

I've been blessed to have such amazing people around me. Words cannot describe how amazing these people are. Everybody is so great in their own way. Everybody is so beautiful in their own way. It truly is fascinating how we are all different and specific. There's nobody that's exactly like you. There might be someone similar to you. Maybe you like exact same thing, but still you are different from that person. Oscar Wilde says "Be yourself. Everybody else is already taken". Being able to accept and embrace who you truly are is one step. And the next step is to be able to share the person with the rest of the world. You cannot be amazing person and not share that gift with the rest.

Before I moved to NYC, people have told me that New Yorkers are very cold and they will not care about you. I disagree with that. Sure, most of people are not even from NY. But, I've met so many wonderful people ever since I got here. They can be preoccupied with whatever they are dealing with. But, I feel that these people are more honest and real about who they are. Or at least they are working on becoming who they want to be. The only reason that they might seem "cold" is that sometimes just they really need to focus on their own problems or issues that they are facing. That's it. They are living real life. Life in NY is not easy. People don't say "If you can make it NY, you can make it anywhere" for no reason. It's tough. Nobody said it's going to be easy. You have to overcome whatever you are facing. To be able to face that is already a blessing. Because that means that you are strong enough to face that, and you are about to face the blessing you've been waiting for. It's difficult that when you've been in that situation for long time. You've been asking to get saved, or to get out of that situation, or to get the one break you've been waiting for ages.... You start thinking that maybe your time will never come. Stop listening to the voice. Those thoughts are there to test your faith. You have to be stronger. You have that power.

To talk about who I am or how I feel was not my strength. It's still not. But, they have made me feel that it's ok to talk about how I feel or who I am. It s ok to talk about my flaw. It's not complaining. It's actually is important to share those feelings with others. That's a bravery, courage, and strength. You are not hiding from who you are or what you are feeling. You start accepting the situations. You start being honest with who you are. that's something to celebrate! Life has to be celebrated. And we can do that anytime! It's not only when we have some breakthrough, or when we get promoted or when we hit the lottery. As a matter of fact we should celebrate for being who you are every single moment of out life.

It's amazing how you are different from everybody else. And everybody is so beautiful. There's absolutely no doubt about that. Enjoy the differences. Enjoy the uniqueness.

“If you were lucky enough to be different, don't ever change”

― Taylor Swift

Love,

Surrender

When you surrender to what is and so become fully present,

 the past ceases to have any power. 

You do not need it anymore. Presence is the key

Eckhart Tolle

I'm a true believer of "the power of NOW". I believe that you must live in present and do whatever it is that you do best and what makes you happy. And that's the one and only way to manifest whatever you are looking for in your life. That's my personal belief. When we get stuck with our past, trauma, or things that's not happening for you yet, and focus on that, that's the exact thing you are attracting. That negative focus is the exact thing that's preventing you from the thing you want. Your body produces the same hormones whether it's anxiety or excitement. And your brain will determine what emotion you're currently experiencing based on the event you're facing. So, why not take that as an excitement? 

It's is not like I'm living the perfect life. I'm not successful by the standard of this business. I'm not rich. I do not live in the pent house on the luxurious building. But I am happy. I choose to be happy because I'm alive. I have a roof over my head. I'm not starving. I have a job that helps me pay my bill. I have friends who love me and support me. I have family who love me and wish nothing but the best for me. And they are alive. I have a boyfriend who loves me dearly and want nothing but the best for me. I have dreams that I want to pursue and make it happen. So, the rest?! that should just fall into the places. All I can do is be grateful for the things that I've been given. Be grateful for the small things and for the fact that I get to focus on what's coming and what's going to happen. And that's what makes me happy. They say that the if you can imagine it, that means it's already on its way somewhere. So just have faith. Just know that it's going to happen. The truth is that no one knows when or how that's gonna happen. But I refuse to focus on the negative. Why am I not this and that. why is this not this and that. why not..... It just makes me depressed even more. The moment you start paying attention to what's lacking in your life, you can never stop. There are millions of things that you don't have right now and you won't have in the future. Yes, things are not the way you want it to be. Life is not a torture. It's a beautiful gift from the Universe. You're not here only for yourself. You're serving the greater things. And to be able to be a part of that is a precious thing. And please remember that you are not the extra piece or the spare piece in the puzzle.You're a significant part of this big Universe. Without you, something will collapse. You are made for a purpose. You're here for a reason. You might not see it now, but surrender. You're very important in this Universe. And Love is what makes this Universe go around. Be love, Be you. Be in NOW.

Love,

Get out from "I'm happy when" Syndrome

I'll be happy when I'm rich. I'll be happy when I'm famous. I'll be happy when I'm thin. I'll be happy when I have this promotion......

But the reality is that once you're rich, you have more problem, like suddenly you have so any cousins. Once you're famous, you face another struggle, like you don't know who to trust. Once you're thin, you'll face another issue, like maintaining that weight. Once you have that promotion, you'll have more obstacles to overcome. More, more more more.... Struggles, obstacles, issues...they just keep coming to you. So, my question is WHEN are you going to be happy!?

NOW

That's the only answer. You have to enjoy your every single moment. We have goals and places that we set our mind to. And we tend to think that once we get there, that status or that materials, or that whatever that is, that's the thing that brings us happiness. It's actually the other way around. When you're happy and enjoy your life, live your life the fullest, those things that you want will come to you. It's great that we have those goals, and aim for better and higher things. We plan our way through. And most of the time things won't go as we planed. Sometimes it's for the better, sometimes it's for the worst. It almost never goes as we planed. But have you realized that it all works out anyways. And we have to learn how to enjoy the process. Other than being born and dying, everything in between is mystery and unknown. Still we find a way to enjoy that moment. The only time we can truly appreciate and embrace is NOW. You have the power to change your thoughts. You are in charge of your action. Start from the place of love. Start from the place of happiness. Enjoy and Embrace every single moment of your life. That's the biggest and the most simple secret of this life. Happiness is a state of mind. It's a choice. Emily Fletcher, founder of ZIVA meditation, says that the most important thing is to detach ourselves from our goals. The fact that it's in our mind, our desire to be something or somewhere, it means that it's already on its way. So, what we must to do is to trust that it's already on its way and forget. Desperation and being clinging onto that is not going to get you where you want to go or be. Just trust. Just be. Just be in the moment. It's your life. It's the dream that you've been waiting for. That's now. And you cannot miss that precious moment by wishing and hoping how you'd be happy when things happen...

We're living in the everything in between. And we can created it however we want! I'm so grateful for everything Emily told me.

2 lessons I leanred

Truth, honesty, and sincerity. That speaks louder than anything else. It reaches out deeper than anything else. It just touches people's heart in most spiritual level. When someone is not sincere, you can tell. Their words won't just get you. At the same time, you have to be sincere about listening to that person as well. So, it goes both ways. A genuine relationship start only when both side are sincere to each other. It's never one-way.

 I tried to write so many things. Sometimes, words come out more easier than other times. But, when my heart and passions are not fully there, it sounds fake and I'm just lining out words that seems right for the context. I'm not lying to you. I'm still trying to write as best as I can. But I'm still thinking and planning in my head. Do you get the difference?! There are so many wonderful blogs out there that can teach you and preach you more detailed, constructive way and some people do that professionally to make their living. Me... no. I wish I could write like them. But, that's their word. not mine. English is not even my first language! lol. I just want to share my thoughts and hope that you'll find something in it. I don't even intend to inspire you or motivate you. I just want to share my thoughts, no layers, no covers, just me. The most honest part of me.

The other day, I had an amazing conversation with my boyfriend. It was one of the best conversation we ever had. He's very smart, intelligent, and good with words. And sometimes that can be very annoying. Smart becomes "Smart-ass". I was irritated about my situation. How my reality and dreams had so much gap. I know how I should see the situation, how I should be grateful for what I have right now, how there're people who'd kill to be in where I am now, how this is only temporary not the permanent situation... And because both sides were so obvious, the fact that I have to think about how I should feel made me upset. I just wanted to feel that way. My ego was taking over. Why can't I?! Why should I?! Those were the question going around and around in my head. Ego based questions.. "I" based question. It blinded me so much, occupied my head so much. Then he told me something brilliant. Something that I've been forgetting to see.

"When you can't believe in who you are, when you have difficulty trusting who you are, do it for people who care about you, for people who believe in you. Do it for them."

And it hit me. Instantly my mother popped up in my head. She believes in me more than anyone else. She just believes in me. She wishes nothing but my happiness and the best for me. And I know that she won't be disappointed even if I decide to quit or give up. She still want me to be happy no matter what with no expectations in return. I know that and I have absolutely NO doubt about that. And I want to be better for her.  I want to make her proud, besides the fact that I'm her daughter. I want to be strong, fight, and believe in me for her. And that made me strong. That moment my doubt disappeared. 

2 lessons I learned in this conversation.

1, You have to be sincere not only when you speak, but also when you listen.

2, When you have difficulty believing in who you are or what you do, do it for people who believe in you. 

Be honest, sincere, transparent. You have no reason not to. You are worth it.

Love