mindset

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” 
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"

The other day, I attended this event about "Overcoming a scarcity mindset". It was very interesting. Our mindset is usually created by your social status, cultural background, gender, or even social media... all sorts of things. The ideas and the stereo types of all those things can build certain mindset in your life. For example, if you grow up listening to your parents saying "oh, we don't have money for this and that", you mind grow a mindset of "not having enough". When you get bullied growing up, you could have the mindset of "I'm not worthy to be doing this and that, or to even have friends". Even though that we might be aware of the concept that we are capable of changing the mindset, we still are trapped in that mindset still. That could lead us to 'pity party" or root "fear of success" in you. You check your social media so very often to the point that it becomes your addiction. So, rather than having it as a tool to network yourself or to keep in touch with others to certain extent, you just make that the your ow personal validation system. How many "Likes" we got. How many compliments we got...  but those are not who you are. Who you are is so much more deeper and more worthy of everything you can possible imagine and even more. Those social medias or the ideas of how things should be do not define who you are or how worthy you are. Your thoughts become your belief, and that becomes your mindset. You are in charge of that. The panels were talking about this artist. "Artists are poor. And once you have money, it's too commercial, it's not good enough." well, those were the ideas of how artists should be. So, after this artist made some income by selling her art, she just went out and spent everything. Because she had a mindset of "artists should be poor". There's nothing wrong with having money. As an artist or as anything. It will actually let you have some options to explore more with your potential. If you have money, maybe you can take this class and that class without worrying about how you're gonna pay the rent this month. If you have some money, it might let you have some option of choosing what work to take. High paying but not so interesting, or low paying (or even non-paying gig!) but something you are very passionate about. There's nothing wrong with having money. You have to tell yourself that you are worthy of success and more financial freedom. You have to tell yourself that you are worthy of that opportunity. Mindset can be changed.

Another thing that was very interesting was talk about process. You know how we talk about "if you can see it, you can get it", or that we have to visualize as if we've already reached the goal. But in this talk, it was different. It's one thing to know your goal and being able to visualize. But what's more important is to know your process and to even visualize the process. In business, they talk about planes. Short term plans, mid term planes, and long term plans. And depending on those plans or goals, you break things down and know what you should be doing to reach those goals. Think things from the end to the front. It's the opposite way. But I love that. We need to know what we should do. How we could approach and obtain the goal?! Just visualizing it is only the half way, I think. If you visualize and think that's going to manifest, that's not true. The whole thing is that you have to visualize how you want or what you want, and THEN you have to know what you need to do and how you need to do. Getting there means so much more than reaching the goal. Everything is the learning experience and the foot steps towards the better future. And have faith that you're going to make it.

You cannot let any of those ideas of how things should be or how you are not worthy of success or financial freedom limit who you are or what you can accomplish. When you realize those thoughts, acknowledge that it's there and let go. Your time is more useful and important. Your worth is so much more than that. Do what you have to do. Your future can be beyond what you want, if you let it and work for it.

Love, hope, faith.