Have a Love Affair with YOURSELF

“You are not an option, a choice or a soft place to land after a long battle. 

You were meant to be the one. If you can wrap yourself around the idea that you are something incredible, then you will stop excusing behavior that rapes your very soul. 

You were never meant to teach someone to love you. You were meant to be loved.” 
― Shannon L. Alder

How much do you love yourself? On the scale of one to ten, what is your score?

We live in a world, where things are so messed up. We were born as a pure energy being, as a creature of pure love, and we learn so many things not to be who we are not. We learn to hide, pretend, and to ignore who we truly are. Now that we are more aware of these concept, we have to UNLEARN all that. Some of the habits have become auto-pilot and we don't even realize that we are not being truly and authentically who we are. We don't even know who we we are in the most authentic way. That's hard. We have to unlearn and undo things we learned and the masks we wear for God knows how long. Its decades and decades! It is absolutely not an easy process. First, we have to find what those blocks and masks are. You are going to experience so much resistance. Because you are comfortable. You have been "that" person, whoever you create, and believed that that's who you are. You are going to have enormous amount of resistance. I am not saying that all the learned behaviors are bad. That's not true at all. We learn the discipline, the commitment, the faith, the support..... Those are amazing qualities to have. Yet along the way somewhere, we do learn to hide ourselves. For what? To be accepted, to be acknowledged, to be loved, to be validated.... We want connection. We want to connect with others so that we don't feel alone. We don't want to be disappointed. We don't want to be ignored. We don't want to be different... All those fears formed those masks and habits. We want to be liked. We want to be accepted. 

Breaking the limited belief and habits are tough. But we can do it. We can do it, ONLY if we truly want to. We have to WANT to change. We have to be willing to go deeper and get ugly, be willing to see the wounds and causes behind all that. You might not even remember how it happened for the most of the thing. But those limited belief and behaviors were born/created to protect you from getting hurt. It doesn't mean that that is your truth. Your truth is this. "You are a divine love. You are a divine being who are meant for greatness and for the greatness for the Universe. " When you can see it from that point of view, things will change. But you have to be strong to go through that path. 

I was overwhelmed today. A lot have been coming up in my life for the past few days. It was definitely challenging me to get out of the comfort zone. It is not what I'm good at. This isn't for me. I am not good enough for this... Even those you try, there'll be days when you go back to old ways, or the old habits creep up on you. Absolutely. The thing is that when you start realizing those old habits and turn from that old way, those revisiting "old days" scares you like never before. Then you go to the mentality of "oh NO. I have to go back to light. I shouldn't think this way or that way. I should be doing this".......But guess what?! Don't be harsh on yourself. You don't have to give yourself a hard time because you are there. You don't need to beat yourself for judging yourself. You took the first step, you are aware of your habits, you can go through that block. You CAN UNLEARN all those to be who you truly are. YOU CAN. You have what it takes.

As I was breaking down, my mentor told me this. "You need to LOVE YOURSELF. Have a love affair with yourself.". This isn't something we are used to hearing, is it? We often misunderstand loving yourself and being selfish or arrogant. No. I don't think that's true at all. If you cannot love yourself for who you truly are without any judgement, you cannot love others. because you don't know how to others to begin with. You need to accept, embrace and enjoy yourself. If you can love yourself who is usually the most harsh person to yourself, I mean think about how we talk to ourselves, then you'll know how to love others. We learn the true meaning of compassion and understanding. We will learn to embrace every single inch of ourselves. We are who we are for reasons. To find that out, maybe our journey. Love yourself, no BE IN LOVE with yourself. You deserve it. You have to. You are more than enough. You are truly the divine being. You don't have to hide any more. Unfold and unleash. You are more than enough. 

Love, Hope, Faith