You VS you

“Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality.” 

― Les Brown

Something, that I've been wondering.... Why do we start caring about what other people say? And when do we start caring about what other people think of us? How did that happen? Why do we care about that so much? The things that makes us unique,  that makes us different from others, aren't those the exact thing that we should be embracing? Why do we have to fit in the category? why do we have to fit the certain type? Why do we think who we are is not good enough? Why? And how did this all start? 

I grew up in a place that being different was not exactly a good thing. Try to fit in more. Try not to stand out so much. Be good. Be modest. Be nice... I got picked on more often than enough. Of course I knew I was different. I tried so hard to fit in. There was one incident that I clearly remember. It was in the middle school, right after I had a hair cut, some girls told me that I was copying this one girl's hairstyle and that was not cool. See, being different was not accepted. But being exactly the same as someone else was also not accepted. I knew I was different. And that got me think that I wasn't good enough. I didn't know how to embrace myself. 

“Your lucky enough to be different, never change”-Tyler Swift

I love this quote. I truly believe that it's true. We are all made differently for the specific purpose that God has intended. Imagine if He had the same purpose for everyone and everyone is exactly as same as the others? Nothing will ever get done. That's just catastrophe. We are all created for different purposes and that's exactly why we are all different. You don't have her eye color, so what. You are not as tall or short as that person, so what? Your skin color is different from that person, so what? You  don't think you are as good looking as that person? No. You are beautiful and handsome just the way you are. God did not make any mistake when he created you. Trying to "make it" in entertainment business had made me see so many things, especially since I moved to NYC. What types, and where you fit, what roles you can go for, this and that and that. You are not tall enough. You are not short enough. You are not blonde enough. You are not Asian enough. You are not this and that and that.... they constantly judge you. It's constant rejection after rejection. You have to be tough. What they are saying no to is not who you are. You are providing the product that you can provide them. So, if that product is not what they are looking for, MOVE ON. just as simple as that. Of course everything is easier said than done. It's not easy to separate yourself as a product from you, yourself as a person and not take it personally. Anyways. I was so caught up in the many many ideas and stereotypes of how people should look and how people should act. Then He has been telling me that just let go. I am different because He wants me to be different. He wants you to be different. He trusted you to do only what you can do. You don't have to look like certain someone. You don't have to fit the image of other people. You don't have to worry about what other people think about you. Guess what?! The only thing that you need to worry about is fulfilling what He wants you to do. And how much better you can be from where are you now. You don't have to compete with other people. Your only competition is you. Be better than who you are today. Be better than who you were yesterday. Because that's what matters. Remember, you are different for reasons. And there's no mistake about it. You are special. You are wonderful. Be you. Be authentic you. 

Love, Hope, Faith