Every encounter and departure have meanings

In Japanese, there's a saying "Ichigo Ichie(一期一会)". Each encounters and departures have meanings.

People come and go throughout your life, even your family members. And everyone teaches you different things. Some people teach you things by leading example. Some in indirect way. Some by showing the side you do not want to be. Some by love. Everyone is a teacher and a student.

I've met so many wonderful people throughout 2013. It's not easy moving into a new city, especially when you know only few people. Well, at least I knew someone and it led me to more and more incredible people. Every people I've met, showed me something different. Kindness. Compassion. Strength. Honesty. Trust. Faith. Dream.... I know well enough that I will not be with all of them forever. People come and go. We meet each other in certain point of life. You might know that right at that moment, or not. But they all come into your life for reasons.

I am so excited about the people I'll meet and things they'll show me this year. There are so many things I don't know. It's great not to know. There's always more room to grow. There's always new to learn. Are you willing and open to do that?! It's never too late to learn. It's better than not knowing. Life is about learning and sharing that knowledge with other people. Once you learn something, pass it on to the others. By teaching you'll learn so much more. Doesn't that excite you that there's always something to be learned?! We all do that in different way. There's no right way or wrong way. The important things is "Are you willing?!". Be open to what's coming. Knowing something is great. Knowing that you have things that you don't know is greater.

So, be grateful for people you meet this year. be grateful for people you already know. Be grateful for the things they teach you.


Love,

Happy New Year 2014

Happy New Year!!!

Happy New Year everyone! I wish you nothing but the best and lots and lots of blessing to each and one of you. You are all amazingly beautiful inside out, talented, and amazing people. And if you struggled something throughout last year or if you're doing through something right now, please know that it will pass. The temporary situation you were in, that's not your permanent situation. Not even close. You deserve better. You will get through that and know that the great things are on its way. And because you went through that struggle, you are better person. You understand the pain more. You understand the struggle of others more. You can be kind to others. You got to be more strong and wise. It takes time to look things in that way. It's not always easy. But, you have that strength. You have that courage within you. You have the kindness and love within you. You have what it takes. Everything you need was already planted in you. It's up to you to find those seeds within. And once you finds them, water them, nurture them, and it shall become your greatest assets. Lots of things that we want, don't usually happen overnight, no matter how much we want it to be that way. And it's important to take initiative of your life, and at the same time, you need to let go the control. Most of things are out of your control anyway. You do your part and that's all you can do. You show up to your life, everyday, every minute, every second. If something doesn't happen, still keep showing up. Things change overtimes, people change over times, we change overtimes. Nothing is permanent. We are going through every moment. Cherish every moment. Embrace everything that come into your life. Love every people. Give smile to every stranger. Be grateful for things you don't like or people who don't appreciate you, for they are making you a better person. 

Now is the TIME. not tomorrow, not yesterday, it's NOW. 

Live your life

Love your life.

Love,

A glass....

Is you glass half full?! 

or half empty?!
or full-full with half water and half air?!

or are you just grateful that you simply have a glass?!

When you see this glass with water half way, will you say, "I only have a half left". or "I have a room to fill more"? Are you able to realize that there's a glass, without it no water shall be stored. Now that you see it that way, will you be able to be grateful for the fact that we even have a glass?! When we get used to what we have, it's so easy to take those for granted, instead of appreciating or even realizing it. And when we are used to certain way, we forget to realize that there are other ways, or neglect to see the other ways. It might be different from being ignorant, but it's being able to see what we're given, like a glass to fill water, might not be something we do naturally. And I believe that it's time to start seeing things differently. 

We are like a half-filled glass. And we are the glass. We are not perfect, nor we ever will be. We're all work-in-progress. We change our way of life everyday. We change our way to think everyday. One day you might be one thing, and the next day, you might be something completely different. But, you're still you. There's no way right way or wrong way. you are you, no matter what. You change within you to be better, or to be more open to something new. Being open-minded is very important. You don't agree with some things, and that's ok too. As long as you are open to listen to that idea, that's what's important. And when you see/hear something new, you take those ideas in to be better. You have to make a room for something better to come into your life. You cannot just take, take, take everything. You also need to take a part in GIVING. What will happen when you keep pouring in to the glass!? It'll overflow, and something it could have been used for others will go waste. When your glass is about to be full, get rid of the old way that's not serving you any more, so that you can accept something new. 

At the same time, I don't want us to limit ourselves at all. Please don't think that there's a limitation in what we can be, do or have. Because there isn't. There's no shortcut. Some people get there faster than the others. Some people just might have that naturally. Some people might have to work at it more than the others.When you have something that you want to accomplish, do it. Keep working on it. Be patient. Be open minded. Be humble. Know that there's always a room to grow. Really love what you do. And know that you can. We all still have a lot to learn. So, let's enjoy.

Love,

We all want love

Happy Holidays!!! I truly wish that you all had a wonderful Christmas with your family and friends.

It's very important to spend time with people you love. Tell them that they are wonderful and that you appreciate their support and love. Don't expect them to know how you're feeling without telling them. If you love someone, tell them that you love them. If you are grateful for someone, tell them that you're grateful for them. If someone upset you, don't go yelling at them in their face. It's easy to blame on other people and tell them how horrible it is/was. But that's not the solution to all this. If you have trouble/disagreement with someone, you need to talk to them. like, really TALK TO THEM. Explain how it made you feel. It's easy to say that it's their fault without realizing their point of view or where they are coming from. Everything is about the perspective. Being able to change your perspective can save your life. Yelling at each other is easy. Blaming it to somebody is easy. But appreciating what/who you will have and what you already have, that's something else. Being able to recognize and acknowledge what other people are doing for you, that's something else. If you've been hurt by other people, or feel like you've been judged or belittle by someone, it's time for you to start changing your perspective.

 There'll always be people who'll try to bring you down, or tell you that you're not good enough or try to discourage you. And there'll be people who means good, but the things they say can make you feel the opposite. You know, like your mom tells you something that she thinks it's good for you but it can really upset you or hurt you!? That kinda thing. There's also tough love. And it's very important to have someone who'll push you forward, tell you straight forward what might hurt you. You can tell the difference. When someone is important to you that type of love is essential.

But everyone likes to be appreciated, to be noticed, and to be encouraged. If you see someone doing wonderful, take a moment to acknowledge that. Tell them how great they've been doing, or how wonderful they are. Be grateful, show and tell them. It's one thing to be fake and just tell thing that what they might want to hear. Don't talk them up in their face and talk bad mouth when they are not looking. Don't waste your time on something negative. There's always at least one thing you can be grateful for that person even when they make you feel like nothing. Maybe they are protecting themselves from getting hurt. that's their defense mechanize. They might see what they don't like about themselves in you, and that makes them feel not so great about them. They might see what they want in you and that makes them see that they're not there yet. There are millions of possibilities.  The only thing you can do is to be true to who you are, and to keep working on to be better, and to life up other people. We all want same thing and that's love. So start by giving love to others. You'll start seeing the change in other people. You can't change other people. But you can change the way you approach them.  You can just show them, and lead them by example. You can show them love.

Love,

Fake it till you BECOME IT

"Our bodies change our minds, 

and our minds can change our behavior, 

and our behavior can change our outcomes. 

So if the goal is confidence, 

don't fake it til you make it.... 

Fake it till you become it"

Amy Cuddy

People say that "You don't smile because you're happy. You're happy because you smile". Our brain determines our emotions based on our physical situation. So, when you smile, your muscle tells your brain that you're happy. And your brain will produce the hormones and will transmit the appropriate emotion accordingly. Well, just watch this video and she'll tell you exactly what it is, I can't. It is incredible. 

We all have power to change our situation, we have to believe and know that we can. It only seems difficult because we let it think that way. Through out our life,  we often get used to think in certain way. That habit can be build based on your cultural background, religious background, or educational background... anything. It can be any reason. And  when you're so accustomed to that particular way of thinking, you don't even realize that there are some other ways. Or perhaps, you might see it, but not being able to comprehend or put that into action. Getting our of your comfort zone and try new thing is not something easy at all., especially, when you're doing that for a long time! (All your life, even!) But we all have to grow as a human being, and as a part of this big Universe. We all want what's better, don't we?! And we are all capable of doing that. As a matter of fact, that's what we're suppose to do. 

Whatever it is that you want to do, or be, ACT like one. The burning desire in you were planted in, because you're capable of making it happen. 

Let's start with this... every morning you wake up, look at yourself in the mirror, give yourself a big smile and say 

"My life is full of love, happiness and blessings. 

All the good things are happening right now and I'm loving it! 

Thank you!"

 We're all meant to have fun. If we're living our lives anyways, why not have fun!?

Love,

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Everything will work out

So, I've mentioned about Anthony Meindl and his book "At Left brain turn Right". It's an incredible book. It was meant for actors, but I believe that this is for anyone. After all, this is about YOUR LIFE.

I really love how he puts it. "Things will work out eventually. It doesn't mean that you're gonna get what you want or things you expected will happen. NO. But things WILL work out at the end of the day."

just love that! Everything happens for reasons. and you might, or might not find out what it could be. All we have to know is that it will work out. It's tough to see it that way especially when you're in the midth of crisis. You just gotta have a faith. that's it. No craziness, no nonsense, no panic, Be calm, breathe and surrender. It doesn't mean you don't have to do anything. You have to work for it.

The point is that don't have the idea of how it should be or when it should happen, or how it should happen. Those are just gonna limit you. You'll get caught up in those ideas and miss what's more important. NOW! yes. Now is what's important. Now is the only time you get to live. Embrace that now. What you've been "DREAMING", is happening now! So, let's just know that everything's going to work out! How?! we don't know. but know that it will.

And it's happening NOW!

Love

LOVE.... that's all we are based on.

Someone just told me today something wonderful.

"The things you do seems like coming out from the place of LOVE".

WOW!!!! Can this be any better!? It made me so happy because that's exactly how I want people to see me. That's what this blog is about. Everything we do, should come from the place of love. Everything we feel should come from the place of love.

There are so many distractions in this life. So many things can take over our life in a split second. Our cellphones/smart phones are one thing. We're completely taken over by that little device. Remember the day that we used to call land-line and talked quietly so that your parents won't hear you? that we used to fight with your siblings over who gets to use the phone? Remember the day that there was no Internet or social networking site?! How did we live our lives back then?! Many of us are obsessed by those. We feel naked when we forget our phone. That's how obsessed we are. Time changes, things changes, and that's how it is in this time period. There are also a lots of plus side. You can ask for a help right away when you get a flat tire. You can check in your kids when you have to go on a business trip. Your business becomes easier thanks to that device. You are able to access more information right away. You can self-produce/promote.. so on and so on. So, I'm not against that. What I'm against is to be taken over by them. You can use them, but don't be used.

Same thing goes to money. It is very difficult not to think about money. Unfortunately, you have to pay your rent, the bill, the food... It does take very important part of our life. However, we have to remember that money is something that's created by human beings. The value was determined by human beings. The use was invented by human beings. It is managed by human beings. It's not going to define who you are or how happy you are. It doesn't. For god's sake, bills are just a paper which can easily ripped apart. Who you are and how happy you are, the only thing that can define that is YOU and YOUR LOVE.

My amazing mother always told me that "Anything that has a shape will break". Your phone will break one day. Your computer will break one day. Your favorite cup will break one day. If you think of yourself as a thing with shape, yes, your body will stop breathing one day and it'll stop functioning as a person. So why would you want to let yourself, and your life taken over by something that'll break!? And we don't know WHEN it'll break. Not so reliable, is it?! But, LOVE?! we can always count on it. Love is a feeling. Love is a power. Love is a source of all living things. Love is EVERYTHING. it's me, it's you, and it's your friends and family. It doesn't have any expiration, boarders, or limitation. You can create love anytime. You can feel love any time. It's not always easy to take love over your material situations. Trust me, we all do. How many times have you walked pass homeless people when you actually do have some spare change or a dollar to gve? Maybe you were on the way to the bar that'll only take cash and you needed that extra dollar.... You know that the right thing to do, the action comes from the place of love, is to give a dollar.

It's not easy to take the way of love all the time. But when you start following the way of love, you'll start seeing so much more. You'll start listening your inner voice more. Things will become easy. You'll see that your life is so much more. You'll smile more. You'll love more. You'll enjoy your life more. You'll live more. And that's the truth.

Start doing one thing out of love. Not because so that you can get something out of it. Just because you are alive from the place of love. Remember, we all are love. We didn't create that. It was there way before we were born.

Love,