Which door should I choose!?

"Everything has more than one way of looking at it."

We all see things in subjective point of view. What if you see it from different point of view? More Objectively perhaps. Do you think you'll find a new perspective?

My mother always told me that there's more than one knob in each door that's in front of us. Which one should you choose, is all up to you. You can see the heavy door knob with lots of hardships, stress, and negativity. Or, you can choose the light one with compassion, love, and positivity. If the situation can't be changed, how would you like to see?

Say, you had a customer who gave you a hard time. Your reaction?

A: you can get upset, and give a bad service. Or you might even snap at him/her.

OR

B: you can take a few breath and be objective. Maybe the customer had a really  bad day. Maybe his/her boss had given a difficult time. Maybe, maybe... the list could go on and on.

When you put yourself in thier shoes, you might change how you approach the issue. As my friend says, this is  "Paradigm Shift".

Today, at my work, there was this lady who ordered a wrong thing thinking it was something else. On her way out, her server came up to her and said "thank you and I'm sorry about earlier." Her reply was unbelievable."well, you should be." I couldn't believe my ear. How can you say that to someone!?  Don't you think it's sad that she can't care about other people? Wouldn't you get upset if someone treat you that way? We all make mistakes, nobody is perfect. The difference is if you can care about other than yourself, even strangers. Can you?

I kinda got off the track. But in every situation, there's a lesson. You can learn from everyone, and everything if you are willing to do so. Imagine the life that's nothing else to learn from, how boring that will be.

Don't forget to breathe. Love is everywhere if you decided to see. Look at the situation, see what you can learn from it. Every moment is your chance to grow. Doesn't that excite you?

Love,

What if Money was no object?

Watch "What if Money Was No Object - Alan Watts [HD] (Legendado pt-BR)" on YouTube

This video came across while ago. And again, today. It must mean something. Sure we live in a world money is kinda object. We pay rent, morgage, bills... etc, etc. Sure people say love doesn't pay the bills. What do you think?? What will you do if money wasn't truely an object??? What do you desire? What do you pursue? How will you live?

We all have a purpose in this life. Maybe more than one. Some might know what it is. Some don't. It might change along the way. What can you do for the world? Whay is your part in this universe? It might not only about what you want. It might be more than that.

What does your heart tell you?

It might be time to take a good look at your life.

Life.
L+if+E.
Between Living and End are filled with IFs. How you fill those "IFs", are all up to you. So, how will you live your life?

Love,

Dreammaker

Don't be a Dreamer, be a Dreammaker.

You live only once. Many people say, "I wanna do this" or "oh, I've always wanted to do this". And how many people actually put that into action?!? My guess is NOT EVERYONE. Because I've been like that. There are many reasons why you don't do it. Money? Time? Sure those are good excuse not to do it. Then, what is a good reason why you should put that thouht into action???

Because you wanna do it!!!!!

What else??? If you really want to do whatever that is, you will make time, you will make money. You will make effortd to make it into reality. You WILL. If you don't, you are not that serious about it. Or you're scared, and making excuses justifying why you're not doing it.

As we grow older, or become "adult", we have lots of obligations. Like paying bills, taking care of family,  and the list can go on and on. And we also learn how to make those excuses convincing to others, and TO OURSELVES. And some people get very good at it too. After a while, we actually might start believing that those are true. That keeps us away from what we want do farther and farther. Eventually, you stop thinking about it. And when you remember that, you hate yourself for not pursuing it. Or it might be too late.

You live only once. If you believe in spiritual reincarnation, you live once in this physical realm. So why not do it??

Anyone can be a dreamer.
But can you be a dreammaker and pursue what you dream?

It takes courage to do that. It takes commitment, determination, and patience. It'll cost your time and money. And you might not be there at the end of the day. But like every other books say, would you like to keep wondering about "what could be", or "what could have happen"? Would you try it, even if you don't get the result you wanted. Would you rather wanna know how it is, even though you might not like it at all?

If you can dream, you're half way there. Be a dreammaker. Don't be just a dreamer. You already have what it takes within you. You have to believe in yourself. This might be the hardest part of following your dream. But if you don't believe in yourself, nobody will. Take a risk. Take a chance. Pay attention to the messeges around you. As the Law of attraction says, there's nothing you can't be, do, or have. Well, not nothing. I can't be a 7 feet man,since I am 4'10 " female. But as far as your dream goes, the possibility is unlimited. Because your power is unlimited.

Here's a wonderful blog I wanna share.
Marc and Angel Hack Life 
They give powerful inspiration and great lessons. Reading it encourages me big time!!!

So, again, let's be a dreammaker. Not a dreamer.

Love,

Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful worldas it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things rightif I surrender to His Will;That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with HimForever in the next.Amen.

--Reinhold Niebuhr

This prayer is often known as "SERENITY PRAYER".

And I love this prayer. It's a funny story. I got a bracelet with this prayer engraved in while back ago. Thinking how beautiful this prayer is. And when I went back to my parents' house this time, in my old room, there it was, this book, talking about this prayer!!! I must have been 12 or 13 years old when I got the book. Please ignore the thought thay I was a weird kid reading self-improvement books instead of comic books like all the other kids. lol.

When I saw the book, I felt stupid. How could I have forgotten about this prayer for such a long time!!!????? How could I? What's done is done. So I decided to let that go.

I think this is a very important prayer to keep in mind. We all know that there are many things that are out of our control. Like traffic, weather, or what country you were born in. We have to accept it, deal with it, and hopefully embrace it.

Let's say you're stuck in a really bad traffic or your car stopped suddenly, and late for your important meeting. Of course you'll be upset and frustrated. It's just natural reaction. You wanna get there on time. I mean, who loves bad traffic? Nobody!! But would you rather be in a accident and hurt yourself or someone else??? Maybe the universe is protecting you from getting hurt. I know it's difficult to think that way when you're in the situation. I have a hard time dealing with that too. So, let's just take deep breaths for few minutes. You can't control what's going on on the freeway. It just doesn't work that way. Does getting upset or frustrated help you get to where you wanna go faster? Or make your day any better?!? 

Just breathe. We're not always in charge of what's going on. It doesn't mean you can let go of everything and be lazy.  You still have to do your part to be the best version of you. And when you feel like the world turned against you, remember the prayer.

Love,

Showing up is the Key.

I was reading this column my friend posted today.

It was about showing up.

You'll never know what the outcome will be unless you show up. If you don't, well, you should know that you're not gonna get anywhere. And when you show up and give your 100%, let's just forget and move on to the next. And the rest!?!? The universe will take care of it.

Sometimes, I would actually say MOST of tha time, the result you want won't happen right away. It will take time. But if you keep showing up, you'll have more chance of getting where you wanna be.

I'm in no position to say "just keep working hard and you'll get there." Or "believe in your dream, believe in yourself, and know that you're gonna get there." You've heard millions of those by now. And I'm still in a process of going somewhere. I got stuck in the weird funk for a long time that I'm barely getting out. I'm nowhere near where I wanna be or should be. And sometimes, it feels like the time is running out. I have to keep reminding myself that IT'S NOT FOR ME TO DECIDE.

All the self-improvement books and quotes say the right things. If you apply something and it works for you, Great. If it doesn't, try another one. Or make up a new one!! It doesn't matter. As long as you show up in your life, that's what matters. And you can't just show up half way. You gotta go show up 100% or 120%!!!. That's all you can do. That's all I can do. I really hope that the rest is also up to me. How I wish that's how it is.

But, I'll show up. As long as I'm alive and pursuing my career, I will show up. Because I'd like the possibility to be 1, rather than zero. Even if there're 99 reasons for them to say no, I will refuse to let them say I didn't get it because I didn't show up. It may take you to the place you weren't expected. It may take you farther than you've imagined. As long as you show up, there's that 1%  chance that someone might see what you got and who you are.

Will you take that chance???

I will. I'll keep showing up. Because that's all I can do.

Love,

I am who I am.

A very good friend of mine told me about this song, "I am who I am". This song is performed by an artist who I don't usually listen to. So when she told me about this song, I was a bit skeptical. How good can that be?!? That was my initial thought.

Ooooo my god.

And I repeat. Oh My God!!!!

I didn't know why all those tears were coming from. Really!

This song is about a girl, who's following her dream. She knows how blessed she is to be able to pursuit that dream, and given that opportunity. And because she knows that it hurts when she wants to stop and think about giving up. She knows if she stops now, she'll never be able to start again. All her friends who started out together has gotten their shots. The are ahead of her, in a way. She felt left behind and lonely.

Everyone has their own path and lown moment to shine. That's what the song is about.
No matter where you are right now,
no matter how hard it seems right now,
no matter how rough the situation is right now,
Keep your faith.
Follow your dream.
Believe in who you are.

We all lose our sight or path to follow. And that's ok. We're not perfect. We're not meant to be perfect. We're here to learn, fall, and stand back up. And be the best version of who you are. It doesn't matter what others think of you. Sure, there are times that you're not in controll of the situation. And most of the time that's the case. The important thing is that you did your best. You give your best. And when you do that, someone will see that.

You are who you are.
I am who I am.

Stop comparing yourself to others. It's never gonna end.

Just be the best version of you.

And I'm telling that to myself as well.

Love,

You're never fully dressed without a smile

My mom loves Annie. It's one of her most favorite movie of all time. Although she's only seen it in Japanese dubbed version. So, she has no clue how the whole thing would sound in English. Well, except for "TOMORROW" part. She is not a fashionista. She doesn't really dress up for herself. She'd rather have us take extra classes or get something for me and my sister. That's the kinda person she is. And I love her to death. And even, now when we tell her to wear something nice for herself, she'd say, of course in Japanese,

"you're never fully dressed without a smile!!!!".

And she'll do her cute little dance. Because that's how she dress herself. It's not a high-end name brand dress or bag. With her Big smile. That's the best way to dress yourself. She taught me that.

It's important to dress for yourself to make you feel good, or presentable. People will see that. But even when you're dressed in perfect outfit, without a smile, people will forget you. They might remember your outfit, but they will forget you as a person, underneath the expensive or colorful clothes. It doesn't mean that you don't have to dress up. It's fun!!!!!

But what's more important is
that you are smiling.
That you're enjoying the moment.
That you're living in this moment.
That you're who you are.

That's what my mom told me.  I love you mom with all my heart!!!

Love,